Some may think it’s more difficult to say yes to everything but after having a conversation with a good friend of mine and doing some reflection over the last few months, I disagree. I think it’s way more challenging to say NO to most things that come your way than to say yes. Saying yes is easy, some “yes” people want to please those around them, some may want to be “in the know” of what’s happening so they say yes, some feel bad for not saying yes, some really really want to take part in all that life has to offer and for some it’s all of the above.
Something that I have been struggling with for quite awhile is deciding what to say yes and what to say no to. Steve Jobs was quoted as saying one of his strengths and thus apples, “wasn’t all the things they did, but it was all the things they didn’t do.”
It’s easier just to say yes, however at what cost? Are you really staying true to you and your priorities and goals. Do you feel more satisfied with taking on more or by doing less and doing those fewer things with more presence and engagement? I think there will always be times in our lives when we need to take on a few more things and be involved in a few more groups/events. However, when we are aligned with what is important to us and what gives us the most energy and stay true to that, we live a much more enjoyable life. Our days feel just as full as they would if we were involved in everything. I think it holds true for who we talk to and who we choose not to (of talk less to). I have heard many times, we become what we read and who we talk to.
I am grateful for all the opportunities I have been given and the wonderful network of people I have come to be associated with (and get excited about growing that network). I also feel that building the “NO” muscle is just as important to our long term happiness. It feels good to stick to what important to you, not necessarily in the short term, but definitely in the long term:)